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Thursday, September 18, 2008

Urbanista Swingles, Embassy-inspired Dance Moves and Stress Relief

Published in Edge Newspaper September 29- October 5


In this day and age when music players are getting smaller and smaller, movies are peddled along city streets, reality shows have ceased to be realistic, new technology seems to pop up every second, and everything, including gratification, has become instant; stress is inevitable. And so, the younger generation, my generation, generation “now”, or the “instant” generation, whatever you want to call us, finds ways to relive stress as instantly as they come.

Stress-relief means different things to different people, but for kids like me who enjoy the social scene, love dancing unabashedly and have a penchant for consuming not-so-child-friendly drinks, the perfect solution for a hard week of exams, quizzes, and nagging sessions is an all-out, no holds-barred gimmick night!

Saturnight gimmicks have ceased to become an avenue for one to be classified as “cool”, the word cool has even ceased to be, well, “cool”. We do not go out on saturnights to pick someone up or to find a relationship, we do not go out to meet swingles (single and willing to mingle); we do not go out to be seen. We do not go out because we have nothing to spend our money on; we do not go out to piss our parents off.

We go out because these so-called “gimikans” are the perfect venue where we could let our hair down, chillax after a hard week, enjoy our friends’ company and try to forget all our problems. Yes, gimikans, wherever they are, however they look like, or whoever frequents them are flocked, not because of all these superficialities, but because they provide my generation with the perfect distraction. We, however young we may seem to other people, have our own problems; we have a lot of things on our minds. And although our parents never hesitate to remind us how minute these problems are compared to theirs, and no matter how many times they give us that “been-there, done-that” lecture, these problems remain ours. And when we feel like we need an escape from these problems, the first thing that comes to mind is a gimmick night. Not because it is “in”, but because it is the most accessible form of escape for us.

I mean, where else could you spend six hours of your time, working your body with Embassy-inspired dance moves, relaxing your mind, clicking glasses and sipping cocktails, and talking with your friends about senseless stuff? This is the only place where you can truly relax and forget your worries. During gimmicks where the only decent conversation you have is bellowing your order to the mixologist (bartender for all you baby boomers out there) on top of some crazy techno music, you could forget your social standing, and you could forget that you do not know how to dance. And in those moments between crazy drunkenness and normalcy, between ingesting alcohol and hurling it out with projectile vomit, between senseless conversation and even more senseless dance moves, you realize that here, in the middle of the crowd, you are happy, and even if you are not… at least you are trying to be. And that is why my generation finds solace in an all-out, no-holds-barred, saturnight gimmick.

Confession #10



the truth is..gimikans really give me a venue to let lose...and i dont care if anybody says otherwise

A Partyphile's Mental Notes

“ OH, MY FREAKIIN’ GAWD!” you tell yourself as you crawl out of bed. It is 1 PM and you have managed to, once again, sleep through all of your morning classes. You should be in school, but nooooo, you just HAD to sleep the whole morning. You’re tempted to sleep some more, but tell yourself that ten hours of sleep is enough. As you eat your breakfast, you plan out your possible activities for today:

1. Stay home and bond with the family? (Isn’t that what Sundays are for?)
2. Start studying for next week’s periodical exam? (Not today. Weekends are for fun.)
3. Coffee with the barkada? (Hot java and good conversation…the only thing that could top that is…)
4. Another night with your gimmick buddies! (Now that’s an idea! It’s the perfect release after a stressful week)




Urbanista Swingles, Purple Ink and Embassy-inspired Dancing (11:00 PM)

You have just arrived Urban Club, and after the bouncer stamps your wrist with purple ink that takes an eternity to remove, the mixologist (bartender) hands you your fave party potion: Rum-Coke (beer is, after all, quite passé). You scout the premises and realize that this is the perfect time to party, the place is full, but not crowded; people are not yet wasted, but are tipsy enough to start dancing their socks off. As you show off your latest Embassy-inspired dance moves to your equally wasted friends, you realize that you are surrounded by eye candy. This is where all of beautiful Davao is!

Urban Club: Great Service (and they even almost pamper VIPs), lots of Swingles (single and willing to mingle), great cocktails. You are definitely coming back next week.





Hyperventilating, Chillaxing and Flat Sausages (2:00 AM)

You decide to transfer to 183, your other favorite bar. You get there and the place is hot and crowded; the whole club has transformed into a dance floor. Sixteen minutes is the longest you can stay inside 183, otherwise, you might run out of breath, eternally.

183: The place to be if you want to dance, the crowd is friendly (a little too friendly if you ask me), and entrance is free by 3AM. Skip this next week.

You try to catch your breath as you migrate to D’ Owl, a bar that features house music. You love it here! The people are cool; the interiors are nice, the mixed drinks are some of the best in the city, and for someone as exhausted as you are, D’ Owl is the perfect place for chillaxing before heading home.

D’ Owl: The scene is fresh; the music is all-house, all-the-time. You love it here. You might skip UC next week and chillax here instead.


Your friends have decided to adjourn this gimmick session; everyone is exhausted and hungry. You pick up some Sausage McMuffin on your way home.





Channel Surfing, Hugging the Throne and Other Little Tragedies (5:00 AM)


As you mindlessly channel surf in bed, you realize that you spent 976 Pesos on one gimmick night (that’s more than your half-week allowance!), you need to create excuses for tomorrow’s nagging session with your parents (seriously, you are running out of good excuses to explain why all your clothes smell like cigarettes), your tummy hurts form all the puking (bye bye Sausage McMuffin ), you are even more exhausted than when your day started, and you are feeling sick and sleepy…Very sleepy… You slowly feel your eyes drop…
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Rrrrriiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiinnnnnnnnnnngggggg!!! Your alarm clock is deafening.

“ OH, MY FREAKIIN’ GAWD!” you tell yourself as you crawl out of bed. It is 1 PM and you have managed to, once again, sleep through all of your morning classes. You should be in school, but nooooo, you just HAD to sleep the whole morning. You’re tempted to sleep some more, but tell yourself that ten hours of sleep is enough.

No, you are not nursing a hang over. No, you are not wasted. No, your toilet shows no signs of projectile vomit.

Yes, you still have some cash with you. And yes, it IS still Saturday afternoon. That was some crazy dream. As you sloppily eat your breakfast, you plan out your possible activities for today:

1. Stay at home and bond with the family? (Hm. Now that’s an idea! Its not intoxicating, does not induce vomit, it does not cost a cent, and you do not end up exhausted and hung -over, channel-surfing mindlessly in bed)

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Converasation Shortage


blah blah blah...

i wish i could hear a l;ot more people talking than my mom telling me what to do. clean this, clean that, mop this,l mop that...doesnt she get that im at home because im working? if i was not doing anything i wouldnt even be home..

it seems like my life is now lacking of wonderful conversation

after this, im going to school. my teacher will once again tell me what to do, how to live my life.pathetic.

there. i hear my mom again as she tells me to clean up..

i am getting tired of this.
i am getting tired of hearing everyone talk, when they are not really saying anything.

conversation with my classmates, they sometimes seem lame.its like all they hink about is school.

where is everyone's love for life and living?

because completely submerging yourself in a life of school or work is not living at all..i used to think it was... but it isnt


confession #10

some of my friends do not want to meet up in a bar (my element) because, they say, we cannot talk there. but, in this world where good conversation is scarce, i sometimes hope that instead of talking somewhere about some senseless stuff, we could be dancing or drinking the night away in some noisy bar. because then, you get to see what your friends really want to tell you.

who gives up his seat for you?
who accompanies you to the loo?
who gives you attention?
who faces you whent hey dance?
who shares a drink with you when you have no cash left to buy some?
and who talks to you when you're "just not feeling it" and you are tucked in a corner, trying to find a hand to hold in this crowd full of lonely people?

Tambagan

tambagan is a visayan/davawenyo word i had recently discovered. throughout yesterday, people were saying this word and it got me thinking once again about how people dealwith advice

of course i realized i was being too full of myself to pretend like i know what im talking about, and so i have decided to blog about advice and myself.

now, i know this seems narcissistic, but i have a point here.. trust me..

well..people often give me advice, they tell me what to do, how to l;ive my life..

some advice is unsolicited, some is..the point is:

whether or not i ask for advice or not, i never listen to them... i mean, even before i ask people what they think about a certain predicament or query, i have already made a decision in my own twisted mind. but the fact that poeple put their two cnets in, or even that they could sway my opinion or make me think about the issue at hand again, it just makes me feel more in control of my emotions and the decisions my mind makes

therefore, advice-taking is not really for the purpose of advice-taking..it is somewhat of an assurance.
sometimes, i just want to know if people agree with me, and if they don't, i wanna know the reason behind it as well

confession #9

note to friends: when i ask you for your advice, never tell me taht you have nothing to say or that you are bad at giving advises. when i ask you for your advice, i am not really asking for your advice, i am asking for re-assurance of my worth in this world, i am asking for a shoulder to cry on, most importantly, i am asking for YOU, and not the words that come out of your mouth.

Monday, September 15, 2008

Layers and Layers

well..decided to answer this strange survey...just so you'd get to knowm me better:)


LAYER ONE:
Name:
zhaun
Birth date:
december 7 1986
Birthplace:
cagayn de oro city, misamis oriental, philippines
Current Location:
davao..the loveliest place in the philippines
Eye Color:
dark brown
Hair Color:
black...butn now its lighter...because of the "sun" haha
Righty or Lefty:
Righty


LAYER TWO:
Your heritage:
i'd like to think im pure pinoy but i do not evn look the part..haha.im art chinese and spanish
The shoes you wore today:
haha...santa cruz crocs
Your weakness:
cigarettes and chocolates
Your fears:
umm..i dunno.bananas
Your perfect pizza:
hmm..sbarro chicago deep dish
Goal you’d like to achieve in life:
be a famous writer..haha..how pathetic..scrap that..be a famous singer..me likey likey

LAYER THREE:
Your most overused phrase on IM:
hahaha
Your first waking thoughts:
argh..coffee..now...
Your best physical feature:
umm..i dunno...my lips...?
Your most missed memory:
high school

LAYER FOUR:
Pepsi or Coke:
umm..i cant endorse sodas unless they pay me
McDonald’s or Burger King:
mcdonalds..haha...havent tried Bk yet
Single or group dates:
hmm..single...
Adidas or Nike:
whatever..
Lipton Ice Tea or Nestea:
nestea baby!
Chocolate or vanilla:
chocolate..always, ALWAYS chocolate
Cappuccino or coffee:
hm..caspuccino is coffee.stupid question..next!

LAYER FIVE:
A famous person, dead or alive, that you would interview:
hmm..i dunno..mariah?
Movie you can watch and say the lines along with the actors:
eew..i dont ever wanna be a movie-groupie..puh-lease!
Name two of your passions in life:
partying and singing
Least favorite time of day:
1pm..when i wake up

LAYER SIX:
Hairspray or gel:
wax..haha...much much better than hairspray or gel
Your favorite meal:
hmm..pizza, pata tim, roast beef, iced gem biscuits, choc nut
Color you see when you close your eyes:
black with white spots and stuff
Listen to classical music:
haha..when its like mixed in with techno,...hahaha
Ever said LOL in real life without thinking about it:
i dont even type LOL


::END::

Sunday, September 14, 2008

This is Not Sex and the City


i was sitting with my friends somewhere in the middle of davao, yes, not new york. i was in a fast food...i was in mcdonalds actually...and i was enjoying my favorite treat:

a hot fudge sundae, a good menthol cigarette and better conversation

yes. this was my sunday night. and lthough it seems regular, it was fun. the conversation was nothing like what the asamantha's and the carries of the world go through, but hey, these are my friends, and what they have to say is good enough for me.

we do not live lives as exciting as the main cast of sex and the city, neither do we have the most exciting love lives, but here we were, four single people just out of college (well one is actually still in college) and ready to take on the world. opur conversation was not about anything exciting either. we just talked about common everyday occurences. and at that very moment, where a little honest mistake garnered laughs like it was a big joke, i realized:

it is never about where youare, how exciting your life is, or what you say... it is actually more abiout who you are with

and i think that tyhis has always been the constant theme in my life. friends are my fuel, and the lack of friends (support and what not)is what weakens me..it is my proverbial kryptonite...

i wanted to go back to college to be with these peope again... but i know i do not have to do that... a simple text is enough to bring us together, and even bring us back to our uniform-wearing daYs, when we chatted away, pretending to listen to our professor. for all we know, they were never boring, we just knew somehow that better conversation was waiting for usin the seat next to ours.

confession # 8:

at this time where my life is complicated, my thoughts are a blur, and my love life is non-existent... these college buddies of mine still have the power to take me back to those days when i could just kick back, relax and watch my life go by.

and i am afraid to let go of these people, because maybe, just maybe, with them gone, i would lose my license to chillax as well..

Saturday, September 13, 2008

Going Out with 15

Alright. Now anyone who has followed this blog would know how ive been depressed the past weeek, but thi week i a totally different story. i do not understand why, but luck has been on my side lately..

last night, i visited my friend's house. i walked going there, so it didnt cost me anything. i had to walk ecause all i had with me was a measly 100 pesos plus change.. that just does not work for me so i decided to walk..

a few chit chats later, we decided to join our other friend in pescado. its this new place in torres. my friend gave me 40 for the cab ride, and i chipped in a measly 13 pesos. anyways...when we got there, they decided to transfer to i88...so we did

and i got a free ride..hehehe

so..recap...ive been to theree places now and all ive spent is 13 pesos..

peiple gave me beer left and right, and so i drank the night away,...hehe...

to cap things off, i shared a cab with my friend and i chipped in 2 pesos..

so my total expense for last night: 15 pesos..


confession #7:


someone tells me that when you manage to go out and party and not spend a single peso... thats when you know you are loved for who you are and not for what you have