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Friday, March 6, 2009

New Davao


When we speak of tribes in Davao we often think of the Lumads and the natives who live high above in the mountains; but what my generation does not realize is that this isn’t necessarily the case. No matter where we originally come from, no matter how long we have been settled in this city, and no matter how little we know about each other; my generation now forms the Dabawenyo tribe. We are the new tribe of Davao, a breed of educated, street-smart, and confident people. The yuppies and students that walk the city streets unknowingly form one homogenous tribe; we share the same interests, attitudes and points of view. We may not know it, but we share a lot of common traits which now dictate, not only how the economy of Davao moves, but also how we deal with each other.

Surprisingly, the new breed of Dabawenyos is still much like the past generations of Pinoys. We still eat five times a day (merienda is still a must), we still use “sawsawan” with every meal, and we still invite whoever happens to pass by our tables to join us in eating our favorite “sudan” with a steaming hot cup of white rice (no matter how many times Ms Winfrey tells us to do otherwise). Unlike the Manila crowd, we are less obsessed with eating healthy thus Kwek-kwek, Fish Ball, Balot, frozen strong beer and, much to the horror of Manilenyos, unlimited rice are still favorites among Dabawenyos.

Unlike past generations, however, we have stopped trying to be “sosyal”. We are now content with being ourselves and even put a premium on simple living. Thus, fancy restos are now being snubbed; we appreciate simple Filipino food like Barbeque, Inihaw na Isda and other home-cooked favorites that can compete (in price) with even the most established fast-food chains.

Even bars are now getting shrugged off; partyphiles have gone back to the old Filipino way. It used to be, when you walked the streets at night, you would see a group of men sharing chit-chats over some cold beer in every baranggay, in every kanto, in every sari-sari store. We have gone back to this Filipino tradition of conversing over beer, but unlike the generations of our parents, we now find the right place and time for it: thus, as everyone has probably realized by now, F. Torres is where all the magic happens.

The only exception to the “anti-sosyal” rule, would probably be the coffee shops. We still frequent them even if we know we can get our caffeine fill at home for a much, much, much lower price; because coffee shops are the perfect venue for lazy conversation (and of course, free WiFi). They set the stage for great conversation and somehow, after a trip to your favorite cafĂ©, you feel relaxed. And this is what we are after: stress-relief.

Wellness and relaxation have become the priorities for the new Dabawenyo tribe. We spend money for spa services and massages; we go out partying to forget all the chaos that life brings, and we now enroll in our local gyms to help sweat our stress away. We put a premium on good living and letting our hair down after a hard day at work. But that doesn’t mean we don’t have our share of mischief and misdemeanor.

Older generations often think of us as rowdy or “wild”, but I think my generation is more informed and make wiser decisions. That is not to say that we do not have our share of wild nights, but I’m pretty sure, we have not been doing anything that our parents’ generations haven’t done before. However, the difference is in the way we handle these facts of life. We may be wild (but I am doubtful that we are wilder than any of the generations before us) but this time, we are confident enough to admit that we are. We admit to doing what we do, we are not a generation who tries to seem squeaky-clean; we have gone away with all the “kaplastikan” and we have matured well enough to realize that, although it is not okay to make stupid mistakes, it definitely is okay to own up to them.

Of course, an article could never capture the true essence of the new Dabawenyo tribe but these things I know for sure: we know what we want, we know how to get it, we have mastered the art of remaining under the radar while moving mountains, we are oblivious to the fact that we have great potential, we still love fried food, Hebi and Choc-nut, we have done away with social-climbing, and more importantly, we love and appreciate Davao and all the quirks it brings along with it.

Thursday, March 5, 2009

90s Child

as you know im a huge 90s baby...i was born near the end of the 80s so.....my eearliest memories were probabaly dyuring the 90s..and no matter what people say about songs that sucked during the 90s (think, boy bands, girl bands, show bands and gross rap acts) i still think there werea lot of gems in that era...just like this one...i loooooove love love this song...it never fails to relax me...decide if you like the remix or the original version more...






Confession number 14:

you know im not romantic at all (duh...i might as well be made from ice)

but, really...this is one of the most romantic songs ive ever heard...reminds me of those stories about secret young love

Sunday, March 1, 2009

You Just Graduated, Now What?


It is graduation season again, and even though I hate to be a party popper, it must be said that graduating is not an easy ride. No matter how you feel about graduation right now, it still holds true that it will bring a lot of changes to your life. And these changes, whether positive or otherwise, may be intimidating, scary and confusing.

Students, especially graduating students, always think that graduation is the end; the finish line in the race of education and learning. What they seem to forget is that this is not actually just an end, it is also a beginning; a beginning of a totally different life.

After graduation you will have to start fending for yourself; say goodbye to your allowance, say goodbye to those lazy afternoons of chit-chats over coffee, say goodbye to doing nothing. After graduation, you will have to do something worthwhile with your life; not because it is expected of you, but because you would want that for yourself. You will realize soon after graduation that, unlike in college, every little decision you make will definitely affect your future life; and it will be harder for you to be care-free and do what you want just because you want to do it. More importantly, it will be a lot harder to relax. You may think that after years and years of studying, you would want to de-stress and chillax; but when you wake up the day after graduation with nothing to do, nothing to look forward to, and with no friends in tow, you will realize that a day of rest and relaxation is the last thing you need.

Stress will definitely set in. Sometimes, you may even feel like you are alone in this journey to independence and success. People may not be there for you when you need them most; nobody might understand and support the decisions you make. The people who you consider friends may not be as friendly or as available as they used to be, and you may soon bring yourself to the realization that being independent from the confines of school also means having to be independent from family, friends and your comfort zone.

Yes, graduation and the changes it brings with it is tough, but remember my dear partyphile: you are tougher! Don’t think too much, live for the day and carefully map out your plans for the coming months. Apply for as many jobs as you can, or take a rest. Start your own little business, or manage your parent’s store. Go to Boracay for some hardcore partying, or stay at home and look for online jobs. Whatever it is you plan to do after graduation, do it without apologies. You are young, you are bound to make mistakes, and it is just a matter of being comfortable with the stupid mistakes you make. Try to figure out what you want in life and just go for that dream, otherwise you might end up in some lame job that will ultimately make you unhappy.

Dear partyphile reader, you have probably gone through a dozen hangovers in your lifetime, you have probably hurled out projectile vomit in public, and you may have probably even danced on top of some ledge in some bar that one (truly wild) time. You have gone through a lot in your lifetime; trust me, finding success after graduation is not going to be that tough.

So to all the graduates of 2009: enjoy the time you have before graduation. Be careless, make stupid mistakes, make even stupider decisions, go out with your classmates, tell your friends what you have always wanted to say and party hearty before that fateful day. Because after graduation, the real work begins, and even though I would hate to admit it, being exposed to the hardships and trials of the real world makes you want to lay low on the party scene. So enjoy what you have left of your college life, and relish the fact that you can still be immature, even for just a couple of days more. And please, please celebrate your graduation with a bang!

Throw your own graduation party, or party with your closest class mates. No matter what you do, celebrate that exciting day and party until the sun comes up, after all, that will officially be the last night you are allowed to party like there was no tomorrow! So drink all you want, dance all you want, laugh and cry all you want because the next time you will get together with your classmates, student life will just be a thing of your fun-filled past.

Confession # 26

Adults always tell students how hard it is to live in the “real world” even though students never really listen. And then you realize how truly hard it is as soon as you graduate. But I still tell my college friends not to listen to those rants about hardships and trials and the woes of fending for yourself and your family. College is supposed to be fun; one big adventure. And even though its real purpose is to prepare us for the “real world”, students shouldn’t know that. They should have the time of their lives…while they still can.



Congratulations to my dear friend Anna Vellarino, the
person who single-handedly inspired me to party like there was no tomorrow. She
taught me the ins and outs of the party scene; without her I would have never
truly appreciated the art of letting my hair down and enjoying the gimmick life;
more importantly, if it wasn’t for her, I would not even have this
column.

It has been a long five years, but you have finally made
it. You always say how lucky you are to have friends… but it was always us who
were the lucky ones to have you. Congratulations!

Saturday, February 28, 2009

Happiness is...


Came across abby's blog and i read a post that describes happines

so here is happiness as i define it.

happiness is:

1. a stress-free, drama-free, no-holds-barred gimmick night
2. a perfectly delivered punchline
3. the opening lines of the songs "sandcastle disco" and "train on a track"
4. indulging in some sundae-dipped fries and a big mac
5. iced gem biscuits
6. hanging out with friends
7. receiving unexpected money from whoever
8. singing in the shower
9. texting all day in bed
10. waking up early and discovering that classes were cancelled...so ud get back to sleep
11. a sweet, heartfelt text message
12. somebody doing you a favor unexpectedly
13. your crush remembering something random and doing something about it
14. a warm plate of lasagna
15. just chilling at home...while listening to the sound of raindrops
16. an over night trip to the beach, with only your friends..no parents..no lovers..no hassle
17. smoking after a huge meal
18. dunhill frost..i loooove mentholated cigarettes

Thursday, February 26, 2009

disclaimer my ass!!!

hmm..ive been reading my friend jobo's blog and i realized something when i came across his disclaimer...

he was saying that he might be writing something offensive..so readers should read at their own risk...and then i realized, i write much like the way i party: carelessly crazy.

i write about everything, anything and whatever i think of.i talk about sex, drugs and alcohol, and i dont know if thats really good or if it makes for some good entertainment...but that is just how i write stuff

and i dont care who i offend because..i dont know...i just dont fucking care

o here's my disclaimer:

if you have read my blog and disagreed with anything, or felt offendedby anything i have ever written, or will ever write...well...fuck you! suck it up and stop reading


if your shallow mind can't even take a single person's opinion...you shouldn't even be surfing the web...go hide under your mommy's panties and stay there..for good...

ahhaha

idding..jst chill everyone...read for entetrtainment..to read blogs for inspiration...SO....NOT....COOL....


by the way..here's jobos blog:
http://boredjobo.blogspot.com/

Thursday, February 19, 2009

great photoshoot!


thank you sir paul borromeo for the great pictures!


had fun!


--DJ MILLER

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

A Non-Valentine Valentines Party

Love is still all around you. You still hear love birds chirping along the city streets; the sight of lovers’ holding hands still makes you want to strangle yourself; and sparkling glittery hearts are still scattered all over the metro. Valentines should have ended by now, but like any other season in the Phillies, it is extended until the next big occasion (which, in this case is the March Graduation ceremonies).

So you lay in bed at night, wallowing in self pity, picking every single part of you that you begin to dislike, when the only thing you truly resent is the fact that the cosmos is still reminding you that you are loveless this season.

However, you do not need to put yourself through all these. All you need is a party to ward off those Valentine-blues! So go ahead, gather your closest single friends, and have a Valentine-themed, farewell party for the season you hate most: Valentines.

Cocktails: It isn’t a party unless you have cocktails. Serve up some festive cocktails like Red Margaritas and Pink Cosmopolitans. If you want something simple, sweet and fast: grab a glass, fill it with ice, add a jigger or two of vodka, some Grenadine syrup and fill it to the top with Lemon-Lime flavored soda or soda water. This Pink bubbly drink will be the star of the party.

Red Dots: Want to make your drinks a little more festive? Put some red gum drops or candies in an ice tray, fill it with water and freeze. Use these to top your favorite drinks to give them a little more Valentine appeal.

Food: Don’t stress yourself. Ask your friends to bring a dish or two with them. You will take care of the desserts and canapĂ©s and appetizers. Find a cute skewer and string pieces of chocolate and cherries thru them. Buy some Strawberry cake from your local bakeshop; slice them to about an inch thick, and cut them out into heart shapes with cookie-cutters. Put a dollop of cream on some sweet crackers and top it off with strawberry jam, or a piece of red chocolate.

Ambience: Wrap your light bulbs with red plastic or cover your lamps with red fabric to give your place a more sensual and romantic atmosphere. Hang five to seven red Christmas balls with cascading heights in every corner of your home for a festive but chic look. If you are feeling extra-luxurious, you could scatter some red rose petals on the floor, or on pink table cloths. But please do not fill your house with little sparkling hearts. You do not want to make your home look like a tacky mall display-window, now, would you?

Music: If you want to be senti this season, go on and play tear-jerkers like Brandy’s Long Distance, Mikaila’s Art of Letting Go, 3 Doors Down’s Here Without You and Brian McKnight’s One Last Cry. If you are looking for something more up-tempo, play Mariah Carey’s Bye Bye or Don’t Forget about Us, Leona Lewis’ Bleeding Love, Mary J. Blige’s Be Without You or Beyonce’s Single Ladies.



You are now officially ready to throw a chic Non-Valentine, Valentine’s party! So celebrate with all your single friends, and get all the Reds, Pinks, and Hearts you could take on that day; because right after that, you will finally be ready to say good bye to the Valentine season and all the depression it brings along with it.